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Testimonials

Tania and her services were a bright light in a very dark time for me. I was not coping well with infertility when I started to work with Tania, and she quickly bought me encouragement and hope. She is well versed in all aspects of infertility and has thoroughly researched the science behind the issues and treatment options. Tania is strong but empathetic, and was supportive of any treatment options I wanted to explore, whether they be based in Eastern on Western philosophy. She is just a badass at life, and a badass fertility coach - there's no one else I'd rather have on my team!

I started my journey into choosing single motherhood by choice about 3 years ago at 38 and I am approaching 41 very quickly now. At that time I really had no idea what the process entailed other than I needed to see an RE to see if I could even get pregnant. All checked out fine and I was given the information to look at specific sperm banks along with the procedures that could get me to the pregnancy stage....but that was it! Nothing about how to choose a donor or how to decide in which bank to even look at. Nothing in the way of support going forward in the future or how to find support if one wanted to connect with other SMBC. So after a year of figuring out my donor and attempting two times with only the first time working then resulting in a loss.... I decided to turn to FB to see if there were any groups with women like me. I happened upon The Fertility Mentor through the SMBC site and decided to reach out to her. It was the best move I have ever made. Tania has been such an asset when its come to me finding information that is going to help me make the best choices for me moving forward. This whole fertility journey is tough enough on it’s own, so knowing I have someone who can help me figure out what steps to take and when has been a blessing. Thank You Fertility Mentor....I am well onto my new adventure and cannot wait to see what it will bring!

Kristina

I've been considering becoming a SMBC ever since my long term partner revealed she doesn't want to have kids. Having a child has always been super important to me and now that I'm nearing the age to give it a try I wanted to find out as much information as possible on how to get started, especially now that I may be beginning this journey alone. I found the challenge answering all of my immediate questions and made me feel more as ease about the choice to go for it alone. I feel that when the times come I'll have enough information to get me going.

During my consult with Tania we discussed many of my concerns. As I am new to this journey it can be hard to bring up some of my questions however, she made it very comforable and was very easy to relate with. Tania is a wealth of information and uses her own experience to help others.

Thank you so much for doing this! It is beyond helpful and so informative. I'm so happy to have found this group when I did! The timing is perfect as I will be choosing my donor in the next few weeks and now with your help, I'm feeling much more prepared... and it's only Day 2.

Thank you so much for this information. I learned a lot and have a different perspective in regards of choosing a donor as well as the sperm bank. I never thought about paying attention to the family limit but after listen to you speak it's definitely something I want to look further into. I feel like a few of my worries have decreased and I would definitely recommend to others.

Thank you so much. I needed your kind and encouragin words today. Tania Pan helped me to switch my thoughts (very real and depressing). I know I can find a solid life partner after I give birth. However, I still need to be reminded of this daily.

Tania, thank you for being so friendly, informative, and supportive during our call. Really appreciate everything you do for the group, and the support you offer with your own experiences. Thank you also for sharing links to my local SMC group - I've been able to connect with others on the same journey and definitely feel a sense of community.

Tania is an extraordinary resource for knowledge about the IVF process, how to choose reputable donor sperm companies, and how to wrap you head around the idea of becoming a single mother by choice. I wentinto this process thinking I would start by the time I was 40. That was my first mistake by age 40 my egg reserve and quality had dropped. I had a baby naturally at 38 so I had a skewed idea about my fertility. I thought I had years left. Instead I went through 5 rounds of out of pocket IVF, 3 donors because I never bought enough sample. I had assumed it would just work and I bough two vials… it never crossed my mind that my cycles would fail or that I wouldn’t get PGS normal embryos. Tania was amazing because she gave me confidence in my choice to do this alone. She gave me support when my cycles failed. She was an extraordinary resource to introduce me to single mothers by choice groups in my local area. It will become important fo rmy baby as she grows up to see other families like our family. Tania has experienced this process herself so she truly understands the struggles, questions and periods where we question ourselves. You will be lucky to have her knowledge, support and positive enthusiasm for moving forward toward your family goals.

Katie, Rhode Island